Chemo

Last Thursday, I met my medical oncologist, Dr. Sarah Scott, for the first time. She is the doctor who will treat my whole body, in case any cancer spread (undetectable by imaging) to other parts of my body by giving my chemotherapy. I’m pretty sure she’s younger than me, and I spent a good portion of the appointment wondering when it was that I got old enough not only to have a specialist who is younger than me, but one who has practiced for a while. Seems like that happened awfully quickly. Oh well, she probably hasn’t perfected the art of procrastination like I have. We all have our strengths.

I was super nervous before the appointment. I knew this because I kept having imaginary arguments with her and her office staff in my head, which is something I do when I get anxious. When I recognized this and articulated why, I realized it wasn’t because I was afraid she was going to tell me she wanted me to start chemo soon, or that it was going to be difficult. Just the opposite, in fact. I was scared she was going to say that there were about 5 more things that had to happen before chemo could start, and that her office staff would contact me sometime withing the next week or so to get them started. I started practicing assertiveness skills (more imaginary arguments) to let her know I had already waited too long, and that I wanted to start ASAP.

So imagine my excitement when she told me I could start Monday. Yes, I recognize how odd it sounds to be excited to start chemo. But it has to start sometime, right? And the waiting is so anxiety-provoking for me, that there has to be some relief in the starting. There just has to be. So I jumped at the chance, before she could change her mind.

Because my cancer is aggressive, and something called HER2 positive (described here), the regimen will last for 20 weeks. For the first eight weeks, I will go into Montana Cancer Center at St. Pat’s (just blocks from my house!) every other week for 4-6 hours, and get an infusion of two drugs: Adriamycin and Cytoxan. Most likely, I will be extremely tired, and have considerable nausea, for which I just picked up a veritable pharmacy to help me manage. I may have bone pain and mouth sores. I will lose my hair in 10-14 days. At first, I wasn’t too worried about that side effect. I have always kind of wanted to shave my head, and it will grow back, so it didn’t feel like too big of a deal (although there is a flat spot on the top of my head, recently verified by a good friend, and I’m not too thrilled about advertising that). But then it hit me. Shaving my head because I want to, and shaving my head because it’s starting to fall out in clumps are two different things, separated by choice. And lately, a lot of choice has been taken from me. The choice to apply for internships this year, the choice of how to spend my summer. Choice has been replaced by loss. I’m losing my breasts, my hair, maybe my fertility. And no, I wasn’t planning on giving birth to any babies, and I’ve never really done much with my hair. But those are choices, my choices, and I like having them. So I’m sitting with those losses, and recognizing them as such. But also recognizing that those losses will eventually be replaced as well by wonderful things. Not the least of which includes my life.

After the first eight weeks of chemotherapy are over, so is the hardest part (YES!!). For the next 12 weeks, I will get another combination weekly of Taxol and Herceptin. The side effects should be less severe, and maybe even not very noticeable (fingers crossed).

Hopefully soon, I’ll see a pattern in how the chemo affects me, and can count on days of decent-feelingness. Hopefully I make good use of those days by doing something enjoyable. And hopefully, on the days I feel crappy, I don’t get bogged down with guilt or self-pity that I can’t do the fun things. That’s my goal.